Hello
I am sorry to hear that you are struggling and you are correct in saying it is really hard. I can't specifically recall a turning point it was more of a gradual strong minded approach to not letting this ruin my life.
Lamictal did nothing for me which was very frustrating as I had high hopes for it.
Lexapro (Cipralex in UK) has really helped by eliminating all anxiety and panic attacks. This in turn has reduced my dp and dr. It has done nothing for my visual symptoms or that trippy feeling. As for side effects the main ones have been weight gain, daytime sleepyness, dry mouth, reduced sex drive and dry eyes.
Hope this helps
All the best